Friday, October 3, 2008

Sounded Like a Good Idea at the Time but...

Get It Down; 31 for 21

After 95 visits so far today and only 2 questions, o.k. Kathleen actually asked 2 in her comment so I'll up that number to 3 questions, I'd say this little endeavor didn't pan out quite like I expected it to. It was my futile and lame attempt to gather possible topics to stretch out an entire month of everyday postings. Well, not actually. I have plenty of material to keep me busy. Nonetheless, thank you to Kathleen and anonymous for participating. I will leave it as an open invitation, not just for the month of October, for anyone, anytime, to ask questions. Sometimes I know I may not be clear when writing. It's in my head and some how once it it's hits here, I assume people will follow my train of thought but that's not always the case. Especially if people don't know our entire story. Zoey's very complicated, ever changing, entire story. So here it goes. My best attempt at answers. Kathleen asked "Your house is always spotless...do you ever sleep?" Spotless is a little bit of a stretch. At one time in my life I would say unequivically, yes. Spotless. However, through time and life circumstance I have had to reduce my expectations and my self-admitted obsessive compulsive behavior. Many a night I would be up doing housework until 12am or later. Ridiculous I know but I really tried to not do housework when the kids were up. I tried to fill the days with other, fun stuff and let the rest wait until they were in bed. Life has had me readjust and reevaluate. I have mentioned before that I do go to bed rather late though. Earliest, midnight or so. But my time is usually spent sitting with Mark, watching our favorite shows, Biggest Loser being at the top. Cannot get enough of that show. I want to be Jillian. And yes, time in the evening addressing my other obsession ......blogging. Maybe I have swapped housework obsession for blogging obsession, hard to tell. One thing my house is though, is always picked up. I need order to keep control. House in disarray, Heather a bit of a nut job. Just being honest. But I have to constantly be picking up especially since we have lost 12oo square feet since we moved. Our other house had a ginormous down stairs with tons of room for everyone. The boys even rode their Plasma Cars inside. Here, we are in a 3 story townhouse, the square footage distributed up and down with the downstairs main living area very small. I need to keep it picked up or quite possibly I would lose my mind. Second part of your question, "Are Mark and I hoping for more children." That's a loaded, complex question..Hard to give a clear cut answer. Without Mark here to corroborate I will wing it myself. I would say, if I was a few years younger, yes I would have another child. Everyone knows me. Or should by now. This answer should not shock anyone. Or does it? The more children you have, at least for me, the harder it is to make a conscious decision to stop bringing these incredible people and souls into this world. If anyone missed it before and doesn't know, I had my tubes tied after I had Taylor and regretted it immediately. It took 10 years, thus the age gap, before we went ahead and had a tubal reversal. Then came Jake. He needed a buddy. Then came Joe, And well, we all needed Miss Zoey, so here we are. The one thing I would do ,no secret about this as of late either, is, I would adopt from Reece's Rainbow. If we could. But we can't. It's just not in the cards right now. We continue to take life one day at a time and you know, the Needham's always keep people guessing so one can never tell. One thing for certain, seeing we have the older girls, becoming grandparents is, in reality, not that far off. What an amazing time that will be! On to the anonymous question, "How do you work in one on one time... especially with the boys." One on one time? That is a novel concept. Even when Jess was a baby I had to divide my time between her and my grandmother, who we cared for, who had had a stroke. Grandma required a great deal of care. Baby monitors for Jess AND a set for my Grandmother. The juggling act began way back then so I really have only been use to say, 1 on 2 time. The kids are all really close, relationship wise and have, I am speaking for them but I think they have become very adaptable to going with the flow and dealing with doing things in in groups. It is not to say that I am sure at one point or another that they may have liked one on one time but I hope they would say they are no worse for the wear. We NEVER have missed anything in their lives. School related, social related, sports related. Anything. We have tried to make the most of our family time. Crazy as it was and still can be. But the big girls continue to enjoy being home, bringing friends and hanging out all together. Just part of having a large family. Yes, Mark does work a distance and he is in the entertainment business so he is gone a whole lot.I often have had to be mom and dad and that made it absolutely impossible for one on one time. We have done our best. I hope the kids will one day agree. Maybe some do already. Till then, the juggling continues. Years of practice has allowed me to become quite proficient at it. Well,for three questions I sure have filled space! Maybe that's the problem. My posts are so long and so detailed that who could possibly find something to ask. I usually tell more than enough. No one has ever accused me of being short on words. Obviously. Quick little video of the princess. Her newest trick. Proved to us once again that when we least expect it ........there it is!! Remember to turn up your volume and scroll down to pause the blog music to hear the audio.
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11 comments:

Kele said...

Aaahh! Cutest video yet!!

Cheri said...

I'm with you on finding it hard to stop bringing these beautiful souls and people into the world...if I didn't have such a hard time getting pregnant I'd have oodles!!!

I thought your daughter's comment was cute in the Reece's Rainbow post about her tattoo being an 8, to represent the Needham children...Hmmnn, I've been thinking about that and I think there is a way, painful maybe...but a way to get that 8 to turn into a 9... :) :)

Cheri said...

oops...meant 8 representing the Needham "crew", not children. Although that leaves a very interesting proposal...as to what the 8 could represent in the future. :)

Heather said...

Cheri,Jessica had her tattoo done the week after Zoey was born.She and Caitlin went together.Caitlin had Zoey's initials done.They both are on the top of their feet.I remember when they called me at the hospital and told me they were going.At one point in my life I probably would have had an opinion on it but as I sit in the NICU with this fragile little life ...perspective came quickly.So much so that I too have my dove with an olive branch in the same place.I think at one point people thought the Needham's had all lost their minds.Anyway,Jessica's tattoo is actually an infinity symbol.Representing her view on her faith,her life, her family.A nine would be difficult to achieve!As for the 8 and what it COULD indicate instead ....shhhh,Mark might hear you!I think he would be scared!!

Anne said...

Zoey's soooo big! I remember that we loved that game, each of my children and me. Thanks for reminding me of that sweet time in their lives.

Reagan Leigh said...

Oh my goodness. Soooooooooooooo cute! Zoey is quite the ham!!

Jackson's Blog said...

Zoey is just adorable! She has the cutest personality!
Thank you so much for your support with prayers and comment to Jackson, Tony and I through this week! You have a huge heart and we really appreciate your thoughtfulness!

Anonymous said...

Zoey is so precious, I have never been able to have children & found your blog thru another fantastic little girl. You are truly a loving person & should feel great about your self. Your have raised a truly loving family . I love reading your blogs to just get back to reality. Life to to short. Take care & I will continue to view your blog. Again you should feel very good about how you raised your family.

Carey said...

Sooooo cute! She knew what you were going to ask before you did, I was cracking up. She's absolutely precious, what a cuddlebug!

Oh, and wow, I learned a lot about you. I wish I was that dedicated, I need to stay up past 12am to clean, but it's just now 10pm and I can hardly keep my eyes open! Good night!

Pam said...

Dang it!! After watching that video I am in TEARS wishing that I could have had my hands on that beautiful little love muffin not more than 3 weeks ago!!

She is so beautiful. I just love her. ((HUGS))

A said...

Liked your blog!